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4 Signs It’s Time to Move On

It is the nature of relationships to grow and change with time. Unfortunately, that growth isn’t always positive or synchronized with our partner’s personal state of being. We are strange, chaotic beings, us humans, and knowing when to cut our losses and move on to a more beneficial situation can be trying. Without the aid of a spirit guide or a 24 hour on-call therapist we may not know if calling it quits is the right thing for us to do for ourselves, or our partner, but there are a few easily identifiable signs that can assist you in finding the truth in your complicated relationship. Take a look and take heed, for there be truths here, friends. These are just a few signs that you should be


  1. You Fear Going Home:

      If the thought of going home fills you with dread, then it’s probably a good sing that it is no longer your home (at least in the metaphorical sense). Going home to our partners should be a joy, something that we look forward to throughout the day and rely on as a place of serenity and relaxation. Sitting in your car and collecting yourself before going into your house, trying to anticipate what the evening’s argument will be about is no way to go through life. It may be time to reassess your situation and head to greener pastures.


  1. You’re Living Separate Lives

      Holding on to our independence in a relationship is hard. It is easy get lost in our partners and forget to maintain our ability to be self-satisfied. Taking care to find the delicate balance between our shared lives and personal fulfillment is tricky, but necessary for a long lasting and satisfying home life. However, if you find that most of your nights are spent in the company of friends without your significant other, and the thought of him/her is not only far from your mind, but you feel you may just collapse of sheer relief, then head for the hills. Don’t waste your time living in denial, or trying to force a square peg into a round hole.


  1. Where’s the Money?

      So here we are at the first of the month and your electricity has been shut off, the landlord is calling to ask why your rent check has bounced for the third month in a row and last night’s bar tab was put on your debit card… again. It sounds like your significant other may not be pulling their weight. You love them, of course.  They really are wonderful people on the inside, but their finances never seem to be in order. They are always “between jobs” and “playing catch-up”, hardly ever paying their portion of the bills required for your cohabitation. They are an ongoing, perpetual project, and you are exhausted. At some point we must realize that the love just isn’t enough. We are not wet nurses or personal bankers, and we mustn’t let ourselves be treated as such.


  1. The Sex Has Disappeared

      Oh, man. This is a big one. The nail in the coffin. The most obvious and glaring sign that the honeymoon is over and it’s time to part ways. Sex, while not the most important thing in a serious, committed relationship, is always the first thing to go and the most sure-fire way to tell if the partnership has run its course. If you haven’t done the dirty deed in more than a month and it doesn’t seem exactly like it’s on the horizon, you are probably in a dead relationship. Think of sex as the canary in the coal mine, it gave it’s life so that you may have yours. Cut bait and find someone who lights your fire!



5 Tricks to Make Your Profile Pop


We’ve all been there: you’ve entered your email, chosen your username, tapped in the same password you use for absolutely everything else, and now you are staring at the blank space for your bio.  It’s meant to encapsulate you and (hopefully) attract another real life human being. Only the problem is that your mind is suddenly devoid of any thought at all. You have completely forgotten anything about the person you happen to be and if you do remember something you’re fairly certain that absolutely no one would be interested in someone who thought, felt or acted like you. Summing up one’s self in a few sentences can seem like an impossible task, but we here at Proud American Dating have a few simple tricks that can make creating your dating profile a stress-free breeze that leaves you feeling confident in your ability to snag a mate. So sit down, strap in and relax, because we’re here to help!


  1. Be Yourself:

Seriously, we can’t stress this enough. Putting down that you “absolutely LOOOVVVE fishing” when in reality you’ve never even seen a fish outside of a sushi bar or Finding Dory, may seem tempting to snag that stunning angler, but you will live to regret it. Shared interests are not only one of the most important aspects of successful relationships, but also create an easier, more organic courtship. It’s hard work googling everything a person writes to you before you respond, trust me, I’ve been there.

  1. Smile in your Pictures:

Trying to look super sexy in your profile pic? Maybe you’ve got some smoldering eyes going on, or you’ve got that serious “I make difficult decisions for breakfast” look happening, either way its got to go. Turns out Marilyn Monroe was right, the most attractive thing a person can be wearing is a smile! Scientists at Swansea University in Wales have found that “…faces look healthier when they are smiling compared to a neutral expression, and that it doesn’t matter whether the faces were male or female.” And also that “…a happy expression is even more important than cues like body fat or skin coloration.”

Basically, smiles are magic, but you don’t have to get into Hogwarts to acquire them! So, show us those pearly whites, baby!

  1. Be Passionate!

So you’ve recently snuck into the backstage at Taylor Swift’s tour just so you could get an autograph and maybe steal some of her gummy bears? Tell them about it in your bio! Nobody wants to be with a lifeless partner. We all crave adventure and excitement, and we want to see that our possible paramours are looking for the same. So let them see what gets your motor running, what keeps you loving life and gunning for more!

  1. The Past is the Past:

So leave it there, people! There is a place for pictures of you and your ex, it’s called the fireplace. DO NOT post a picture of you and your previous boo canoodling in Las Vegas last year, it’s off-putting to your admirers and probably isn’t doing you any favors in the way of closure. Discard those things and get a friend to take a picture of you at the beach or something. And don’t forget to smile!

  1. Relax

Being free and natural on your profile is far and away the best thing you can do to reel in those matches, and editing your personal information anxious as a bomb diffuser is not going to help any. Be relaxed and confident in who you are and what you want and you will be beating them off with a stick!